By Zahra Barnes
Whether you’re in a sex rut or enjoying the most delicious sex of your life, this tip can help take things to new levels. It’s a mainstay in the practice of tantric sex, which is all about exploring the orgasmic potential of your body. With that in mind, here’s your sex homework for this weekend.
Don’t let yourself orgasm. Not for a while, at least. Get right to the brink, then call a time-out of sorts before you start things up again. Yes, I’m talking about edging, which became a hot topic when it got a mention on the first season of Orange Is the New Black. While edging is often talked about in terms of masturbation, it definitely has a place when you’re getting busy with your partner. It can be easier to get a handle on stopping the action when you’re solo, but when you’re all caught up in someone else, it can be even harder to take a breather and hold off from orgasm. It’s worth it, though.
According to Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Neuroloveology, this type of sex can boost your O in a big way. “You can expand your orgasm by slowing down your breathing and stopping all movement when you’re on the verge. It’s about enjoying the journey, not just the destination,” Cadell says. Then, when you finally let go, all that pressure will have built up and make for a much more satisfying release.